I have had the discussion with them about religion and the boundries of our house and the respect we need to give each other. I just seem to need to ...remind....them....more often than I am happy with if that makes sense.
Generally, she is pretty good about it. She has some humor about the issue, we talked a lot before they got married. She recently gave me the "I will pray for you, God has a plan, good things will be rewarded to you soon." I started typing a response and backspaced out of it. My chat program shows "such and such is typing" so after I did for a bit but she got no message, she replied "Not buying it are you? LOL"
He is sort of the more insistent about it. He kept asking us to go to church every weekend for about 6 months, told us he was worried about my husband's immortal soul. We flat out told him finally that we wanted nothing to do with it, please stop asking, and that stopped.
It is little things now. Like the inscription in those books about hoping that after reading them we would make an informed decision. Hell, man, I'm nearly 40. I spent my time exploring religions, and I made my choice. To assume that I just don't know enough was rude in my opinion. He felt it was ok to do that to me, in my house, during the holidays, with the whole family around, knowing I would be too polite to do or say anything, but when I, quietly and so only my sister in law could hear (I thought) made a joke, at Easter, in his house, about "happy zombie jesus day." he jumped my [censored] in front of everyone about "not in his house."
I think that is the core of the issue for me, and why I continue to have issues with lots of Christian based religions is the underlying opinion that that the adherents are MORE right than I am, I just haven't been given enough information yet. That I don't deserve the same respect of not pushing my beliefs (such as they are) on them as I expect of them. Did that come out right?
I attended church, of different flavors, for 10 years exploring my information before I made my church. He's been a Christian for....a year. STFU already.
I bite my lip a lot. I just don't really see him doing the same I guess is my real problem. No, I am not willing to really fight over it, not yet.
It comes down to mutual respect maybe. If I don't give you pamphlets and books and such, you shouldn't do it to me either. "Treat others as you would have them treat you." seems to mean something different to me I guess.
Cripes, I hope ANY of this is making sense.