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Kinda had some of the same issues with my wife's family. They are very strict Pentecostals.
It really helps they are the nicest and most sincere people I've ever met. We are often hit with stories about certain religious figures who don't quite live up to what they preach, but my in-laws don't have any problems there.
At first it was really overpowering to be quite honest. Being that I never grew up in a church and that both of my parents were not regular attendees of church post-majority, let's just say that it wasn't really a big thing growing up.
How I overcame this was by talking it out with my wife. I explained to her that some things were fine with me, it is their beliefs, etc, but that I would make my own decision about which church and all that I would attend and if we had to, we would find one we could both agree with. Thankfully my wife was very agreeable to the situation (and being on mids helped because I wouldn't do the pastor the disservice of nodding off in the middle of his sermon because I worked all night long) and we were able to diffuse a potential timebomb.
I would talk it out, especially if it is making you uncomfortable. If telling them about your feelings on the matter breaks the relationship, it was coming either way at some point.
Although about #2, usually having someone pray for you is a sign of caring and love. Personally I would just say thank you and accept it and leave it at that. That one is truly up to you. But again I would recommend talking it out with them if it makes you uncomfortable.
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BTW about the books and pamphlets and whatnot - most churches emphasize spreading the word of Christ to everyone and usually that is the easiest thing for new members to remember and usually how some newer members of the Church rationalize things that aren't exactly congruent with their new belief system. But, as is the theme with most of this post, if it's uncomfortable, tell them about it.
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