A friend's suicide

[RugbyBuck]

A friend and teammate of mine shot and killed himself Thursday. It turns out that he had cancer and ongoing legal problems. He chose to keep all of this to himself and must've felt really alone in the last few minutes of his life. He wasn't, though. There were many people that would've done whatever possible to help, had we only known. Would his life have ended the same way? Possibly, even likely, but maybe not and he at least would've known that there were people out there who cared and tried to help.

My point in posting this is just that we all feel like Kevin did sometimes and choose to try to deal with our problems ourselves. That works maybe most of the time, but there are times that we all need help or at least need to know that we're not alone in the world. Help can and will come from unexpected places and people. A BP member (you know who you are, I hope) was once there for me when I felt otherwise completely alone and I will always be grateful for that.

Peace, Kev. Cymru

 

[Taosman]

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. As men we need to learn to speak up about our problems and seek help. A case of beer is not gonna fix your problems. Talking to a friend just might. I'm sure you, Rugby would have helped if he had come to you seeking help. Sorry for your loss of a friend.

 

[Jake]

Damn. :(

 

[bigbrando]

sorry about your loss man

 

[Steve19]

This is a good reminder, RugbyBuck. Over the years, I have known six people who committed suicide, beginning with one in my high school class the year before we graduated.

No problem is insurmountable. We are given no test in life that we cannot pass.

May your friend Kevin rest in peace.

 

[stxbuck]

Damn-that is tough. Sorry for your loss.
I remember in HS, I was one of the last people to talk to someone at school who committed suicide that weekend-I didn't really realize it until a couple of months later, and it has always stayed in the back of my mind.

 

[NJ-Buckeye]

A lesson I learned the hard way... reach out to those closest to the fellow that committed suicide... they need you right now... in SOME way...

Don't get consumed in your own loss.. you can do that later... reach out.. it'll be remembered for decades

 

[FrancisSoyer]

Hey RugbyBuck, very sorry for the loss. A guy I worked with did the same this past winter and it shook my world. I wasn't even that close to him but it hit pretty hard because he was a good worker, very friendly, and appeared pretty happy. This doesn't compare to losing a close friend so I feel for ya man.

 

[RugbyBuck]

Thanks for all of the thoughts on this. It's a shame that having known someone who has committed suicide is such a common experience. Peace to all, here and gone.