A question to all parents on the board

[buckeyegrad]

I don't have children yet, but they will be spanked for misbehavior that warrants it. My parents spanked me and I can honestly say I deserved it every time, but one (incident where I was innocent, but my older sister was able to place the blame on me). Spanking helped make me realize their were consequences for my actions and reinforced who was in control. Sure, I didn't recognize this at the time as a little kid, but looking back I can see the value.

As for "time out"...is this any different than just being told to stand in the corner or sit on a chair without moving?? I know there was nothing worse as a kid than hearing my mom say, "go sit in that chair...and do not move until your father gets home."

 

[AKAK]

I know there was nothing worse as a kid than hearing my mom say, "go sit in that chair...and do not move until your father gets home."

My mom used to make me watch the kitchen timer. Insidious.

 

[x-michigan fan]

My mom used to make me watch the kitchen timer. Insidious.

Now that is harsh!! That is some real punishment..

thats what we should have the prisoners do for part of their sentence..



i know its not much (cause i dont have much) .. but I have to give you some rep for that one... that is just harsh

 

[AKAK]

Oh it sucked... do it to yourself now for 15 minutes if you don't beleive me... just set ti for 15 and watch it until its done... its a long freaking time.

 

[x-michigan fan]

Oh it sucked... do it to yourself now for 15 minutes if you don't beleive me... just set ti for 15 and watch it until its done... its a long freaking time.

I would go nuts... I remember in highschool and college..even no at work looking at the clock watching it hoping somehow it will go faster...


I would go insane if I had to watch it for long period of time...

 

[FKAGobucks877]

Your damn skippy I'll beat my kids. Er, I mean, punish them by beating them - I mean, spank them.

Seriously, several people have already mentioned this already, but spanking is an effective form of punishment, and I will use it. Especially on young kids where nothing else really works. I think the whole "time out" shit is useless. If your dog gets in the trash can, what do you do? You smack his nose. Not to compare raising a dog to raising a child, but the kid needs to learn - most cases immediately -what they've done wrong. Especially when it is for their own safety.

 

[OSUsushichic]

If your dog gets in the trash can, what do you do? You smack his nose.

Luckily I don't have to smack my dog's nose. You just have to yell "<cap>BAD DOG</cap>" at him, and he goes belly up. Big sissy.

My brother and I were spanked as kids. (I still get spanked on occasion. ) We both deserved it every time. My mother was the one who always did the spanking. I'm sure I will spank my kids if we feel it's needed, but I'd like to think mine will be so well behaved that I won't have to make that call. Yeah right!

 

[tibor75]

Luckily I don't have to smack my dog's nose. You just have to yell "<cap>BAD DOG</cap>" at him, and he goes belly up. Big sissy.

My brother and I were spanked as kids. (I still get spanked on occasion. ) We both deserved it every time. My mother was the one who always did the spanking. I'm sure I will spank my kids if we feel it's needed, but I'd like to think mine will be so well behaved that I won't have to make that call. Yeah right!

Manfred no doubt is getting a hard-on just reading this...

 

[gbearbuck]

I went from my parents spanking me to my wife spanking me... lets just hope she doesn't spank our kids the same way she spanks me... :tongue2: :tongue2:

HeeHee... I only wish, maybe before we were married :(

Time outs sucked... waiting in the corner for my father to come home (and be told what I did, and then get a smackdown) was by far the worst... thinking about the action was much worse than the action itself...

 

[ScarletInMyVeins]

my parents made me stand in the corner a couple of times untill the time they made me stand there so long that I fell asleep and busted the back of my head on the stove . After that I just got my ass beat but I deserved it. I was a freakin terror when I was a kid. Needless to say, I believe in spanking and I will beat the hell out of my children

 

[RugbyBuck]

Is it really wrong to spank them both for something one of them does wrong?

I have on a couple of occasions put my older daughter (six) in charge of certain things. That is, she gets punished (not spanked) if X happens again, no matter who does X (mainly her little sister or cousins) or how X happens. It is remarkable how effective this is at restraining unwanted conduct. A little accountability goes a long way.

 

[Savante]

I wasn't spanked as a kid, and I won't spank my kids if I'm ever a parent. There are just as effective ways to discipline that don't involve hitting. There were things I really, really enjoyed and by the time I was 3 or 4, even the threat was good enough for me. The best thing my mom (I grew up mostly with her) ever did was to let me bargain my way out of punishment. I rarely did something REALLY bad, but if I did, and she threatened to take something away (like my Nintendo, or my bike), she'd let me beg my way out of it and agree to a "if I ever do it again, I lose said thing forever". I remember once, I hit my sister and my mom was going to take away my Nintendo for a day. I begged my way out of it and agreed that if I ever hit her again, I lost my Nintendo forever. I was really really careful not to hit my sister, and 2 years later, when my sister lied and said I did, my mom believed that I didn't from my track record and what I had on the line. By the time I got old enough to realize what my mom was doing, I was pretty damn well behaved. Now, I can obviously see that was her plan the whole time (she ALWAYS caved), and it worked. That's what I'll do, let the kids learn on their own about consequences. The danger does exist that kids will think they can do anything once, as long as they don't do it again, but the way she did it (let me choose my own punishment to beg my way out of the current one, as I had no concept of the future), worked.

Of course, I'm now a drunk and a manwhore, so maybe I should have been spanked.

 

[kn1f3party]

No, I think my child is a reflection of what I've taught her. If she oversteps a boundary at her age, I should take a look at myself. If it appears to be from "outside" influence, sternness shall suffice. This has worked so far.

 

[buckeyebri]

I only spanked my daughter a couple of times, but it got the point across when necessary. They were never very hard. Timeouts never worked with her. I will say she has been a great kid growing up so far though and we have been very lucky to not have to dole out much punishment.

I have mixed feelings about spanking her, because we used to get it pretty bad when we were kids. I was afraid of my dad for a very long time growing up and that is not good.

I agree with the discussions of a society that seems entitled (yeah you MoC), I have seen a great deal of that. I also think that authority has been lost in schools at the teacher and administrative level due to the lawsuits regarding punishment by wuss ass parents who think there kids do no wrong. We were taught to respect the teachers and administrators. If we got in trouble at school you didn't even want to go home...

 

[NJ-Buckeye]

hit my oldest ONCE and it affected me so bad, I never touched him again or my other two ever.. and they turned out virtually perfect...

altho I do have my own form of CP.. no computer or video games for the day... that must be worse pain than a board to the head for these kids...