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How Do You Handle Worthless In-Laws

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As my wife so kindly points out when I hassle her for giving her nitwit sister assistance, the nit-in-law's children didn't ask for this fucked up life. She doesn't give them cash anymore, so that's good, but I still resent the hell out of my sister-in-law and her boyfriend for putting my wife in this position.

She does her very best to limit the help to things that will more directly help our niece & nephew. But still....she wouldn't need to buy them an inside air conditioner if they stopped spending all of their damn money on cigarettes and video games.

She's a much kinder and better person than me.
 
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"At this festive season of the year, Mr. Katt", said the gentleman, taking up a pen, "it is more than usually desirable that we should make some slight provision for the poor and destitute, who suffer greatly at the present time. Many thousands are in want of common necessaries; hundreds of thousands are in want of common comforts, sir."
"Are there no prisons?", asked Bucky Katt.
"Plenty of prisons", said the gentleman, laying down the pen again.
"And the Union workhouses?", demanded Bucky. "Are they still in operation?"
"They are. Still", returned the gentleman, "I wish I could say they were not."
"The Treadmill and the Poor Law are in full vigour, then?", said Bucky.
"Both very busy, sir."
"Oh! I was afraid, from what you said at first, that something had occurred to stop them in their useful course", said Bucky. "I'm very glad to hear it."
"Under the impression that they scarcely furnish Christian cheer of mind or body to the multitude", returned the gentleman, "a few of us are endeavouring to raise a fund to buy the poor some meat and drink, and means of warmth. We choose this time, because it is a time, of all others, when want is keenly felt, and abundance rejoices. What shall I put you down for?"
"Nothing!", Bucky Katt replied.
"You wish to be anonymous?"
"I wish to be left alone", said Bucky. "Since you ask me what I wish, gentlemen, that is my answer. I don't make merry myself at Christmas and I can't afford to make idle people merry. I help to support the establishments I have mentioned - they cost enough; and those who are badly off must go there."
"Many can't go there; and many would rather die."
"If they would rather die", said Bucky, "they had better do it, and decrease the surplus population. Besides -excuse me - I don't know that."
"But you might know it", observed the gentleman.
"It's not my business", Bucky returned. "It's enough for a man to understand his own business, and not to interfere with other people's. Mine occupies me constantly. Good afternoon, gentlemen!"



:p Tough position to be in Kattman.​
 
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Remember that just because your not lending financial aid and support now does not mean you don't care or won't help when things are more clear at a future time. There are no absolutes with loved ones.
 
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martinss01;1736385; said:
as others have noted, outside of hitmen and dead hookers there isn't much you can do. helping financially doesn't help because they'll just screw that up with dumb decisions. talking sense into her isn't going to work because there is no way on earth she is going to listen to you. you just have to let it run its course and pray she figures it out before.... well.. <insert situation worse than the current one here>.
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You're absolutely right. I'm done giving money to them, they won't listen to a thing you say and everything revolves around what Mr Dumbass wants.
Oh, and their car broke down today while they were looking for a place to live. I'm glad I'm 300 miles away.
 
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Gatorubet;1736417; said:
"At this festive season of the year, Mr. Katt", said the gentleman, taking up a pen, "it is more than usually desirable that we should make some slight provision for the poor and destitute, who suffer greatly at the present time. Many thousands are in want of common necessaries; hundreds of thousands are in want of common comforts, sir."
"Are there no prisons?", asked Bucky Katt.
"Plenty of prisons", said the gentleman, laying down the pen again.
"And the Union workhouses?", demanded Bucky. "Are they still in operation?"
"They are. Still", returned the gentleman, "I wish I could say they were not."
"The Treadmill and the Poor Law are in full vigour, then?", said Bucky.
"Both very busy, sir."
"Oh! I was afraid, from what you said at first, that something had occurred to stop them in their useful course", said Bucky. "I'm very glad to hear it."
"Under the impression that they scarcely furnish Christian cheer of mind or body to the multitude", returned the gentleman, "a few of us are endeavouring to raise a fund to buy the poor some meat and drink, and means of warmth. We choose this time, because it is a time, of all others, when want is keenly felt, and abundance rejoices. What shall I put you down for?"
"Nothing!", Bucky Katt replied.
"You wish to be anonymous?"
"I wish to be left alone", said Bucky. "Since you ask me what I wish, gentlemen, that is my answer. I don't make merry myself at Christmas and I can't afford to make idle people merry. I help to support the establishments I have mentioned - they cost enough; and those who are badly off must go there."
"Many can't go there; and many would rather die."
"If they would rather die", said Bucky, "they had better do it, and decrease the surplus population. Besides -excuse me - I don't know that."
"But you might know it", observed the gentleman.
"It's not my business", Bucky returned. "It's enough for a man to understand his own business, and not to interfere with other people's. Mine occupies me constantly. Good afternoon, gentlemen!"



:p Tough position to be in Kattman.​
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Maybe if I had a heart or a soul. I lose no sleep over being a bad person.
 
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Taosman;1736420; said:
Remember that just because your not lending financial aid and support now does not mean you don't care or won't help when things are more clear at a future time. There are no absolutes with loved ones.
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That's true, my sister and the kids will always have my assistance when needed by as long as she stays with the buffoon she's going to have to just suffer. I once gave them money to pay their bills, all their bills mind you and Mr Buffoon went out and bought a bag of weed before they payed one penny to anything else. He said he really needed it to cope with the stress of their situation. That was the last time I gave her anything.
About a year ago he saw a Ford Bronco for sale for a grand, it didn't run but he thought it would be cool to fix up someday. Not only did they not fix it up, they never registered it and when they got evivted they sold it to the boneyard for $100.
 
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DubCoffman62;1736499; said:
That's true, my sister and the kids will always have my assistance when needed by as long as she stays with the buffoon she's going to have to just suffer. I once gave them money to pay their bills, all their bills mind you and Mr Buffoon went out and bought a bag of weed before they payed one penny to anything else. He said he really needed it to cope with the stress of their situation. That was the last time I gave her anything.
About a year ago he saw a Ford Bronco for sale for a grand, it didn't run but he thought it would be cool to fix up someday. Not only did they not fix it up, they never registered it and when they got evivted they sold it to the boneyard for $100.
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Do the kids drool much?
 
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Bucky Katt;1736498; said:
Maybe if I had a heart or a soul. I lose no sleep over being a bad person.
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Don't send money.....SEND LUGGAGE!!!!!!!
 
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I've got a friend who deals with somewhat similar situation... it's her brother and sister-in-law .. and their two children

Periodically she takes the kids "out to eat"... they coincidentally go to a clothing store, a barber, a hair salon, etc... has gone so far as taking them to a doctor and dentist... she won't help the adults.. she doesn't give them money... but she does little things to directly help the children...
 
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It's getting better. Last night my sister calls me to see if I can help her get 4 grand back from a "Loan Modification" lawyer she'd hired to help refinance her loan. After about three minutes of surfing I sent her these links

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She gave them the money up front, they never did anything for them and they can't get their money back. They didn't even save any of the paperwork. Best part is it was all buffoon's idea. Whenever I asked her a question she had to relay it to him because he won't speak with me. He doesn't like me for some reason. It turns out that they didn't pay their mortgage for two months so that they could pay this guy.
 
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Disclaimer: It's a brutal perspective.

While I admire your "defense" of your sister, Dub, the problems she is in are based on her choices. Nothing's going to change while you and your family enable her in this messed up marriage. If she married the baffoon, and continues to stay married to the baffoon; then your sister is, indeed, a baffoon.

I say this from a great deal of first-hand experience with family members which I could go on for days about. I realize that "help" sounds like a great word and you feel better for it; however, in my experience it smells and acts a whole lot like "enabling". That, my friend, is a bitch to remedy.
 
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muffler dragon;1736917; said:
Disclaimer: It's a brutal perspective.

While I admire your "defense" of your sister, Dub, the problems she is in are based on her choices. Nothing's going to change while you and your family enable her in this messed up marriage. If she married the baffoon, and continues to stay married to the baffoon; then your sister is, indeed, a baffoon.

I say this from a great deal of first-hand experience with family members which I could go on for days about. I realize that "help" sounds like a great word and you feel better for it; however, in my experience it smells and acts a whole lot like "enabling". That, my friend, is a bitch to remedy.
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You're right she is a buffoon. She was warned about this guy from the beginning, nobody saw any good qualities in him. But she would not be denied and all the most fears have come true. I'm through helping. My mother had been paying for their phone for the last year and giving them groceries but no more. My father is the last sucker still standing.
She used to be so bright but the last few years her personality has turned into Baldrick from Blackadder.
 
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