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Parent dying or dead?

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I want to thank you for your concern about a fellow human being. A Buckeye fan. And further more my DAD.......Does it really matter what I do for a living???? No, we all need a little help sometimes. Although BP is a sports forum board, we are all friends and family, except a few....(plus 1)... Yes I am a PA that works in the ER...I see people die all the time. But how can you be prepared for the death of your parent? I feel that I can be coldhearted sometimes at work with the situations that I see everyday...But with your remarks, I can see what kind of person you really are....thank you letting me see that and the rest of BP....Tibs, a MD that is a "true" professional showed his ture colors once again, I'm glad to see that you and him have the same companion here.....(plus 1)
 
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Very sorry to hear the news, I am close with my dad and don't even want to think about the day that will inevitably come.



First off, I could never know what you are going through, but my first thought would be fulfillment. Make sure that he has done as much as he wanted to do in life, and that he is happy with how things have turned out (which sounds like they have, as he is blessed to have a son with the relationship that you two have).

I would think that him knowing that you and the rest of your family are safe and in a good situation would be all the peace in the world for him. Spend a lot of time with him, and enjoy every day that you have left. Some people aren't as fortunate to be able to realize what kind of time they have left, as they could be taken away quickly without a word.


I guess overall, just be happy that you have the relationship that you have with him, and that it has made it this far. While 62 is probably not as long as you would have wanted it to last, it is certainly better than many other situations, and atleast you still have time to do what you need to do.

Good luck man, and God Bless.
 
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PrincetonBuckeye;808916; said:
I want to thank you for your concern about a fellow human being. A Buckeye fan. And further more my DAD.......Does it really matter what I do for a living???? No, we all need a little help sometimes. Although BP is a sports forum board, we are all friends and family, except a few....(plus 1)... Yes I am a PA that works in the ER...I see people die all the time. But how can you be prepared for the death of your parent? I feel that I can be coldhearted sometimes at work with the situations that I see everyday...But with your remarks, I can see what kind of person you really are....thank you letting me see that and the rest of BP....Tibs, a MD that is a "true" professional showed his ture colors once again, I'm glad to see that you and him have the same companion here.....(plus 1)
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Personally, I think that BP is a great place to talk about these things. It is a "fake" enough world that you don't need to have any concerns about what you should and should not say or feel, and yet, in a way, it makes it more "real" in the end, perhaps. Plus, there are some good folks here.

I lost my mom when I was twenty, and I am sure that the perspective of how to handle the death of a parent changes dramatically with your age and the change in relationship. I was a self-absorbed twenty year\ old, and, looking back, I wish that I had spent more time with her near the end, whatever content of that time may have been.

My point being that the most important thing, from my perspective and situation, is to simply be around. Often they may not want to talk, won't want a shoulder or a laugh, but will simply want to know that they are not alone.
 
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kinch;809449; said:
Personally, I think that BP is a great place to talk about these things. It is a "fake" enough world that you don't need to have any concerns about what you should and should not say or feel, and yet, in a way, it makes it more "real" in the end, perhaps. Plus, there are some good folks here.
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That's true.

Although it's also true that when somebody posts information about their real-life issues/difficulties on this board, they need to expect some ball-busting. And if somebody gets indignant about the ball-busting, it usually isn't going to help.

So it's each person's individual choice if they want to share personal information or ask for advice, and it's everybody else's choice to decide whether they want to repond with sympathy, real attempts at advice, a load of grief, or a perverse sense of humor.

Note - the preceding statements are general in nature, and aren't aimed specifically at this thread. They are intended for those considering posting things of this nature in the future.
 
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coastalbuck;809436; said:
So now thinking that Tibs might be Stoo makes you a racist. Better let Imus know about that.....:huh:
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There were a few folks who used to believe (and probably still do) that Stoo and Tibor were the same person. They had no problem using numerous racist terms to blast me when posting, sending PM's, and dings in a futile attempt to make their case. A couple folks were mature and apologized, but the majority never did. It was quite funny to read their stupidity.
 
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StooGrimson;809630; said:
Hilarious. It's always amusing to see another dope join the ranks of racist idiots who believed (and perhaps still believe) Tibor and I are the same. Good job genius.

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There were a few folks who used to believe (and probably still do) that Stoo and Tibor were the same person. They had no problem using numerous racist terms to blast me when posting, sending PM's, and dings in a futile attempt to make their case. A couple folks were mature and apologized, but the majority never did. It was quite funny to read their stupidity.
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And NotreDameChief wasn't one of those people. I guess it's time to see if you're "mature". Have you apologized to NDChief for calling him "racist"?
 
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3yardsandacloud;809663; said:
And NotreDameChief wasn't one of those people. I guess it's time to see if you're "mature". Have you apologized to NDChief for calling him "racist"?
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Eh, no. However, I do see that I should have stated it better and definitely do owe an apology. I lumped NDChief in as a racist with my poor choice of words and did not intend to call him a racist...just an idiot. I should have said, "It's always amusing to see another dope join the ranks of racist idiots who believed (and perhaps still believe) Tibor and I are the same (this is in no way an inplication that you are a racist...just an idiot). Good job genius." or "It's always amusing to see another dope join the ranks of idiots who believed (and perhaps still believe) Tibor and I are the same. Good job genius." It's not NDChief's fault the idiots I made reference to were racists. I was clearly in the wrong and apologize.
 
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